Why Fall Is The Perfect Time For Change


Ted left his house around 9:45 AM. He filled up his coffee travel mug at our place and drove off into the proverbial sunset–or sunrise as it were. Sure gonna miss him. Movers were efficient and ahead of schedule. He told me to keep the extra key “just in case”.


Ted was our friend and neighbor. After a bit of a rough start over some kind of property line dispute of which I have little memory, where he got defensively angry for about ten seconds, the misunderstanding was quickly resolved and-long story short-we became friends.

It didn’t hurt that our daughters were besties at the time either.


Friendship meant watching each other’s cats while each of us was on vacation, sharing bonfires, and holiday get-togethers on his porch with brother Mark (#1) and friend Mark (#2) or Nibs as Mark#2 is affectionately known. While we enjoyed the view from the best-porch-on-the-block-for-sunsets, Ted and The Marks — accompanied occasionally by Ted’s daughter and other musician types who happened to drop by — would serenade us with folk, folk rock, rock-and-roll and traditional songs and jams whilst we all supped libations du jour late into the night.


Ted’s love of music drove him to Nashville where his musically inclined, literary aforementioned daughter moved before him. Upon his return after each successive visit it became increasingly clear that he was falling in love–especially with East Nashville and its vibrant music scene and clubs.


When he listed his house and it didn’t sell soon enough, he found the perfect acquaintance to rent it to for the perfect price at the perfect time and everything else just fell into place just as perfectly.


We had little preparation for the departure of our closest neighbor/friend. “I’m moving in two weeks,” he informed us after his latest visit to Nashville where he found his own perfect apartment available immediately.


We were in shock.


In the same week, the neighbors behind us–who we weren’t close to–also sold their house and were out of there quicker than you can say Hank Williams.


Change was in the air.


Geez, it seemed like we should be moving as well. With the neighborhood going through changes that hadn’t exactly been helping our home’s value, it was easy to feel like we were going to be left feeling very alone and out-of-step with the trend to make change at opportune times.


But we still don’t know where we want to be…or go.


So we stay…for now.


Even though we feel change is in the air for us as well.


Not only do we feel change a comin’ with the official start of fall less than 30 days away, but because-although we love the home we have poured sweat and tears into-it’s a bit lonely with our daughters’ infrequent visits, empty rooms no one is using and–yes–the departure of our closest friend.


Change is good. Change can be hard. It’s like a loss. Like something died.


But we have to release it. For we can only experience the new if we let go of the old. And, there’s plenty new out there waiting to explore.


This is what I keep telling myself.


Hopefully it will help the transition and spur us on to make our own, big change for the perfect place at the perfect time.


We’ll let go of the idea of holding on to a too-comfortable house, to a town we’ve become too-comfortable in, along with the resistance to change and  to our friend’s new, future self.


I look at it this way: With a brother also in the Nashville area, we’ll have multiple people to visit.


We’ll be visiting Ted in his new neck of the woods.


But it won’t be the same.


It will be different, and that’s okay.


But, I’m keeping the key…just in case.


(photo credit: Jean Compton)

The Weeds of Summer

10527583_10204203246062954_2529964229101594036_nI’ve been weeding a lot lately.


I prefer not to use chemicals, yet I’ve been amazed at how quickly some particularly aggressive species have been crowding out my carefully planted annuals and perennials.


Are you noticing the weeds in your garden more than the flowers?


Some “weeds” are quite beneficial. Dandelions, for example (now sold at Whole Foods in the produce section) contain calcium, iron, fiber, Vitamins A, E and K plus antioxidants of beta carotene and lutein–how’s that for a miraculous little weed! A little in your salad or sauteed is a tasty and good thing.


So…not all weeds are bad. But, what happens when you get an invasive green machine that isn’t so helpful?


Like negative thoughts, this invasion can take over and become a problem when they multiply.


Perhaps your yard is neatly manicured, rather than the organized chaos I prefer to have going on. I used to be that perfectionist person. Now I try to see the beauty in nature’s own, inherent design sense.


Nature, without trying too hard creates its own kind of perfect.


“…Observe how the lilies of the field grow, they do not toil nor do they spin.” Matthew 6:28


Right at this moment my garden is awash in lilies in hues of orange/red/yellow/peach (some of my favorite colors). This is their time to thrive!


Too many weeds, like too many negatives, can close off oxygen and prevent the light from getting in. Giving air and space can give positive energy–or thoughts, for that matter–room to breathe, move and thrive.


I pick at the weeds while not getting too picky about it.


Are you stifling your own growth? Weeds, like unproductive thoughts will most definitely take over if allowed to run rampant.


There will always be weeds, but if you’re noticing the weeds, how can you see the proverbial flowers?


What’s going on in the garden of your house as well as the garden of your mind?


I hope you’re enjoying all the glorious rainbow of colors this summer in the myriad majesty of Mother Nature’s blooming flowers–while appreciating the beauty of even some of it’s weeds.

Are You Down?

10354073_10204071221482422_6594480918528686556_nToday I’m down with a cold.


Sometimes it takes such a thing for me to slow down and take a look at my life.


I managed to go a whole year–not to mention one of the worst winters on record–disease free. So, even though I’m “down” with this blocky head thing, I’m down with it.


It’s giving me some much needed so-called me time even though I may not have thought I needed it.


But, someone, The Universe, that nasty cold virus,  is putting me down in this place so I have no choice but to slow down.


A fast of sorts is in order.


I’ll still have a Cup-O-Joe so I don’t get a headache. But, I’m avoiding alcohol (abstaining for a few days is not a bad idea), and most gluten-loaded foods. Nuts, fruit, teas, H20, immune boost drops–and that Cup-O-Joe are all on the menu. Ah, and Rest, of course!


Ironically, or on purpose, our power went out last night during an intense Midwestern wind/rainstorm causing me to take another fast–from electronic devices.


Phone about to die.


Comforts, like AC, the gas stove, etc., are down as well. Although I can light the gas stove with a match which I’m grateful for to heat up soup and water for tea (and yes for that coffee cup too).


Even being down and out, I still have many blessings to be thankful for.


A summer cold? Not so bad to be down with cold when it’s warm outside.


What are you grateful for on this fourth day of July?



How To Find Your Genius Starpower

5357806_orig“Know thyself.”


The Greeks said it.



“This above all: to thine own self be true,

And it must follow, as the night the day,

Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Farewell, my blessing season this in thee!”


And so did Shakespeare.


And, it still remains true to this day.


That’s what I learned from Zsuzsa Novak’s Starpower Assessment http://www.starpoweryou.com/store/c1/Featured_Products.html when she analyzed my strengths–and my weaknesses, my true nature, in the most thorough personality/strengths evaluation I have ever experienced.


And it was so right on.


My “what”, my “how”, and, especially, my “why”*, my true essence–if you will, became crystal clear to me concerning my approach to how I deal with people, things and the world.


It reaffirmed a lot I already knew–or at least suspected. Yet, more importantly, it also confirmed that I am on the right path. I am “in alignment”.


Actually, totally.


As I discovered with Zsuzsa, in my “rare” case (her words not mine), my three “W’s”* are –all three of them–aligned with each other. I learned, among many things, I am ideally suited to my journey’s path thus far.


Did I believe this about myself? Partly. But, there was uncertainty.


But, not only did she show me where my strengths are. She showed me where I can “up” my game when interacting with those who approach things in a very different–or even opposite way I do. With the awareness of my “weaknesses”, I can learn when I’m coming from a place of fear, insecurity–where I’m not in my “natural” state, but where I’m “adapting” to uncomfortable situations in which I relinquish some of my strength in doing so.


This was spot on!


It was incredibly valuable.  I can’t go into all the details here, but, in a span of nearly 3 hours, I got such tremendous insight about my purpose in life and business that was beyond measure–and all of it recorded and transcribed (including a 70 page pdf) for me to reference and return to.


I must tell you that it is wonderful to work with Zsuzsa Novak. She over-delivers. Her enthusiasm for what she does is infectious and it is evident she derives great joy from what is her greatest gift–of helping others’ find their starpower, their “true self”.


If you are grappling, or struggling with your direction in business and/or life, work with Zsuzsa. Check out her http://www.starpoweryou.com/store/c1/Featured_Products.html . You won’t regret it.  And, thank-you so much Z. It was a pleasure!



Every Day Birthday Thoughts…Today I will wake up, snuggle with some kitties (depending on who is in my bed) get up, make-like-a-tree pose, do some stretches, meditate.
Then, I’ll go downstairs, greet my mate, and drink a tall glass of water with lemon, make a big Chai tea with almond milk and raw honey, open the back door to breathe in fresh air and check out what’s going on outside.
Then, I’ll have some fruit, probably grapefruit or berries.
Then, I’ll take my chai and H20 and go check on my email.
Then, I’ll go upstairs, put on makeup and do my hair.
I’ll put on a fun outfit and accessorize it accordingly.
I’ll drive to meet some cool peeps, family, friends or a combo of both.
We’ll then meet, have some heartwarming food and drink while we have scintillating conversation.
We’ll think of those who can’t be with us–but who we know are there in spirit.
We’ll laugh, reminisce, talk of future plans, and just enjoy each others company.
(There will also probably be some music and-hopefully-dancing involved.)
We’ll head out, continue the party, continue the conversation, feel blessed that we have each other and deeply grateful for family, friends, health, wealth-beyond-measure (because wealth can’t be measured in numbers).
Shouldn’t every day feel like your birthday?
Love My Life.
(photo credit: Craftberry Bush)