When you work from a higher level, on a higher playing field, you attract the higher-ups.
When you set your standards high and associate with like-minded people you become more like them. And, although you might aspire to be just like them, it’s maybe better to be inspired BY them not to BE them. In other words, be the best version of yourself.
Setting your sites low, and getting caught up in the mire and muck of mediocrity, you can lose focus. What you want is to get clear about your ‘why’ (S.S.).
Here are 8 steps to getting yourself setting your sights high while still keeping your feet on the ground:
1) Leaders of the Pack. Leaders are meant to be looked up to. Who are your leaders, the stars of the show in your mind? Why do you look up to them? What is it about them that inspires you to become your better self? Just like you look at the stars in the sky, that can amaze and astound you, stars in leadership can drive you to greatness, to loftier goals, to higher achievement, to shine.
2) Who R U? Begin to associate with these people–the ones that inspire you to do great things. The ones who create epic shit. The ones who will inspire you to make some of your own epic shit. Make connections and conversate with them so that they begin to know who the hell you are. You know who they are. They are just like you, a little ahead of or behind the eight ball. But not out of reach.
3) Imitation Is The Best Form of Flattery. You can get inspired by others but no aspiring to be like them is allowed. Listen to Dorothy (Judy Garland)
“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”
You are not them. They are not you. Yes, we are all one in spirit but our uniqueness, our unique attributes and bringing those unique attributes to the table is what makes us ALL stronger. Let their voices inspire you but remember to speak in your own three-dimensional one.
4) Your Mother Should Know.
“Set your standards high”,
my mother told me. If your mom was anything like mine, not saying all mothers are alike, but she probably shared some words of wisdom, some real pearls with you over the course of your young life. But you don’t want to throw your pearls before swine. They wouldn’t appreciate them, let alone know what to do with them. Set your sights on partying with a passel that wants to do good in the world, send a positive message and the like. Go for the gold or the pearl in the oyster-as it were.
5) Be Selective. You’ve got to get clear on your ‘why‘ you want to do or be what you want to do or be. And, the only way to do that is to get clarity and the only way to do that is to see the world from on high, the overall picture of where you fit in in this grand scheme of things. What is it about you that makes you unique? That make your friends want to be around you? These questions may provide some clues.
6) Get Down and Dirty. While you want clarity, getting a little muddy or covered in lint is okay from time to time. You can learn from digging in the dirt–playing with earth. Actually, getting down with nature can help provide the clarity you seek. There’s treasure buried down there in those trenches. Find that pearl, sift through the dirt and mine that gold. Just don’t get stuck down there in the muck for too long. Getting out in nature, going for a walk, working the garden of your soul for a few minutes or hours a day can help you find those nuggets of real.
7) Write Your Manifesto. Seek clarity, and keep refining that clarity, or clarify your clarity until, when you say it, it feels real and solid. Try Simon Sinek’s golden 3-tiered circle exercise. Place your ‘why’ in the center circle, your ‘how’ outside of that and your ‘what’ in the outer circle. Staring with ‘why’, list all the words, attributes, basically the essence of you. Then, inside the ‘how’, put the ways you will do this, whether it be writing, speaking, etc.. Finally, inside your ‘what’, combine all these ideas into a cohesive statement about yourself. Work it. Refine it. It’s what you stand for.
8) Keep It Simple. When this clarity takes form, everything else will simply unfold for you. Make sure it rings true. That it is authentic for and of you.
It may take getting down and dirty, getting to the nitty-gritty and going through highs AND lows, and passing through various levels from time to time to reach your higher ground. But, with time and perseverance, you can learn to fly/soar with the eagles. From then on, accept nothing less, nothing else. Accept no substitutes.
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