So, I was talking to my good friend the other day. And, I’m talking about this writing course I’m going to take, and about business in general and how I’d like to be a paid writer, and all the different businesses I’ve tried and how I want to have a location-free business that I can take anywhere I want to live, blah, blah, blah.
Oh, and also how I’d like to have that all set up before I move to my ideal living spot so that I can live and work from anywhere, take the pressure off my husband for being the only breadwinner, on and on…
And, she says to me…”Well, why don’t you worry less about being successful, and think more about being happy!” Which is so simple, but so brilliant! And, I know in my heart, that she’s right…but I just get so caught up that I forget the truth in her statement.
So, it got me to thinking…which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Do you have to be happy doing what you’re doing, from moment to moment, to be successful? Does happiness derive from being successful–whatever that means for you?
It reminds me of the Jack Canfield quote:
“If it ain’t fun don’t do it.”
There’s that old story going around that I catch myself even now saying from time-to-time, maybe not literally but in so many words…When I just get to__________ (fill in the blank) THEN, oh boy, then I’ll be happy, yessir! I sure will. Just let me have so many dollars in the bank, so many Facebook likes, so many Twitter fans, weigh 110 pounds, then, it will all happen for me. I. Will. Be. Happy.
Well, you know, and I know, deep down it doesn’t work like that. But, we keep trying, right?
This whole time that I’ve been strategizing about how I’m going to set up my business, my at-home business, my live-anywhere-and-still-be-able-to-work-if-I-want-business (also known as a location-free lifestyle business) is like pushing, pushing, pushing. And it can get like that sometimes, where I lose sight of being happy NOW.
So, how can you be happy now?
1. Be Grateful. Start with this one. The more you’re thankful in those moments where life is flowing, you’re truly happy and you’re doing the things you want to do with the people you love, and the more you take note of it with a “thank-you” to the Universe, God, or in a journal entry, the more you’ll attract more of the same.
2. Take action every day. Movement is happening all around us. Nothing is static, including the Universe-it’s in constant motion. Taking action is where the magic happens. Got 15 minutes?
That’s all it takes to start a business, to exercise to feel better and live longer, to chop up some tasty veggies…Just. Do. It. Use it or lose it. Cliche…but true.
3. Speak your truth. Being false is just so exhausting, isn’t it? People can tell when you’re not real. And, it doesn’t make you feel any better either. It’s like carrying around a big gunny sack on your back…it’s uncomfortable and it weighs a ton. Granted, getting out of your comfort zone is not always fun, but that’s where the growth happens, not to mention the freedom. Throw off the pretense and lighten your load.
4. Smile. Speaking of feeling good, check out the article I wrote for Feelgooder.
There are plenty of reasons to smile. I cite the following four among others:
- A more efficient use of muscles
- Helping babies
- Looking more attractive
- Looking younger….
Need I say more? Just read the article and you’ll see.
5. Exercise. Doesn’t have to be long. Ideally it should be in the sunshine (stock up on Vit. D while you’re at it). Take a walk, do some stretches, do some intervals, jog around the block, ride your bike around town. You get the picture.
And while you’re clearing your head (whilst perhaps standing on same?) you’re building up your endorphins, creating that natural, feel good high and getting much needed oxygen to the the ole noggin to help you think better and be happier better too.
6. Eat well. Eat your fruits and veggies! Another no-brainer! But, we sometimes forget…
Eat whole grains, limit dairy, alcohol, meat (especially red) if you eat meat. Nuts are good. Deep water fish. Olive oil. H20! Lots of that!!! Don’t drink too much caffeine. The 80/20 Rule rules! In other words, try to be good about 80% of the time. (OK, enough for the lecture.)
Listen to your body…often if tells you what you need. Take a vitamin a day, if you like. (Jury’s out on that last one–but I take them in the winter.) Like my papa said, “Everything in moderation!” If you can do that, you just may live to be 92–like he did.
7. Get enough sleep. This also is a no-brainer, right? Not always. Too many late nighters can really mess with your focus, and your ability to be happy or no. And, don’t forget you can never get those lost hours of sleep back. The myth of “making them up” when you go on vacation, or whatever, is just that–a myth. You’ll live longer too. Try for 7-8. That’s best.
8. Do new things. It’s always good to try new things. It fires new neurons, makes you stretch, can even make you feel “brand new”. It can also possibly TURN YOU ON to a new passion. Life is funny that way–*Inspiration* often can come in the most unexpected places. So, don’t poo-poo that chance to go ice skating, see the ballet, take a writing course, do a yoga retreat. Who knows where it might lead.
9. Celebrate your wins. Like a gratitude journal, keeping a “Celebration Journal” where you list your wins–no matter how small–is nice thing to go back and look at when you feel like you’re not accomplishing your goals, living up to your potential or hitting your mark.
Like putting on music that you love can instantly lift your spirits and change your outlook, reminding yourself of what you have done can keep you on track to do even more of those things that are important to you.
10. Help someone–even if it’s just one person…If you can help change just one’s person’s outlook on life, its ramifications spiral outward exponentially. Think of Kevin Bacon’s Six Degrees of Separation:
(It’s a small world out there. You never know how many people you’re affecting with your good deeds.)
I hope these have been helpful suggestions for you.
Please let me know. I always welcome your thoughts.